Friday, February 10, 2012

Growing up is hard to do

BUT, it is fun.
I had mixed feelings after doing our taxes this year. I've finally realized that unless Josh deploys, or until we have kids, we have reached the point where taxes aren't really "rewarding" for us. We are getting a whopping $561 back, much less than the $3500 from last year (deployments make a difference!). Without Josh checking the "student" box, we would be looking at a refund of $136 instead!! We also discovered that we lost about $8,000 in our IRA contributions last year! We have already gained it back, but it just makes me miss the simple times where the government took pity on us and gave us more money at tax time.

*Insert rant*
On the good side, I feel blessed that we are responsible because it made me realize that we no longer look forward to our tax refund to help us out financially. It also makes me feel fantastic that the people who do our taxes are "impressed" with what we've done at a young age and give us lectures of what other people our age are doing wrong.

On the other side, I get ticked that people who have no desire to work and have no job, get medicaid, food stamps, WIC, etc, pop out kids and get HUGE tax refunds. They end up blowing it on hairstyles, clothes, fake nails, and spoiling their kids (I've personally seen $30,000 of Medicaid assistance go down the drain in less than 6 months). Heaven-forbid being responsible with it and here's a thought, SAVING it (for the record they saved $0).

It just frustrates me, why don't I personally hand my paychecks to them? WHY does our government insist on helping people out financially with all these programs, when the people just take advantage of it? Now, I know that may not be the case for everyone in that situation, there are probably some people that use that aid responsibly and temporarily. Yet, I heard on the news that 1 in 5 people are receiving some sort of government financial aid (not including school loans). We are creating a society of people who feel they are entitled to everything without having to work for it, or to have other people do it for them. For if they actually got a job and worked hard, they would lose all the benefits the government is giving them. Not to blame them, from their perspective who wouldn't want "free" money? BUT, it's not free, it's the money of the hard working people, it's my money, and it is sickening.

*Off my soapbox*

On another good note, we are making more progress with paying debt. Moving to SA held us back just a tad with the switch of me going to hourly and part-time as well as all the upfront costs of moving (security deposits, moving truck, etc). We are holding off getting reimbursed for the move and Josh's per diem until we get to Del Rio. Once that comes in, that will put a nice dent into the debt!

As we inch closer, I am dreading the thought of possibly buying a new car. Eventually we will have kids, ideally in Del Rio. We currently have no car payments, BUT we have two 2-door cars and the Harley. I've given up on the Harley, but am seriously considering just living off the 2-door cars for awhile longer, maybe a year or so. We are toying with a few different options to keep our debt low.

SO, we started 2011 with $57,000 in debt, as of Jan 1st of this year, we start with $32,868 in debt! (Me: $5,268, Josh $27,600). A big difference from $112,000 nearly 5 years ago!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

love


Underneath all of that blanket is my dear hubby. This was taken at 9:15, after he had returned home from his early morning sim. Now, he is home for the majority of the day, with the exception of a meeting at 2:45. After three years of working 8-4, or 6-?, prepping for deployment, night flights, mission planning, exercises, ORI's, and ORE's, this fella gets to have an insanely relaxed schedule. Women, if you really want to see your husbands, come with them if they ever go to PIT. I see him more than I've ever seen him before. AND, he still gets paid the same! Wait, technically more during training. HA! What a life. Rumor has it, Laughlin may not be like this. Although it puts a little rut in my working from home schedule, it's definitely something I can get used to!

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Abilene

It all started with a text from my dear friend Keri asking me to come to Abilene while her husband out of town. I knew it would be fun, but I didn't anticipate how much fun and what my definition of fun has become over the years.

First off, we've never visited a city after we've moved away from it (with the exception of home). We've left the city in the rear-view mirror and dust of the moving truck flying. However, we left Abilene knowing that we would return. Abilene was different, we were there THREE whole years (long time in the AF world), we found a great church, and we made friends both military and non-military that we knew we would cherish forever. It only took about a month or so until I had the itch to go back and visit. Thankfully, the time had come and Keri had that itch as well (and a place to stay).

I was able to see many great girlfriends and their families. It had hit me during this trip, I had made girlfriends! And not just any girlfriends, women that I had enjoyed talking to, women that I actually love and care for deeply!! My idea of fun back in the day would never have involved getting a bunch of girls together and chatting til late at night, shopping, or lounging in PJs. I was too terrified for that, too insecure, and had the wrong impression of girls, or shall I say women. Don't get me wrong, there are still women out there that are a little off, but God led me to some fabulous women during our time in Abilene. I realized that I don't have to just leave them in Abilene, I can text, keep up on FB and even drive for visits. This sounds like a DUH moment, but it's difficult to do this because honestly, I secretly enjoyed the part of the AF that allows you to leave people and cut ties. However, my friends from Abilene changed that. We look forward to more trips to Abilene, friends coming to visit San Antonio and Del Rio, and our trip to Vegas to catch up with others.

So, thank you Abilene friends, for changing my perspective on what friendships with women should be like. Thank you Keri for giving me a place to stay and making me feel completely at home. Thank you for showing me how incredible friends care for each other, make time for each other and open up to each other. You are awesome.